“Where do you advertise for friends anyway?”
My husband looked up from his al pastor taco to see if he could figure out what I was talking about.
We were out for street tacos and I decided it was the perfect opportunity to let him know what I had realized.
I had suspected it for a while, but it became clear as day that morning as I journaled about it.
The two of us sat across from each other at a picnic table, mostly in comfortable quiet until I opened my mouth.
And at all the tables around us were sets of people gathered with their friends.
You could tell - they had this “I’m so happy to catch up with you!” energy they were sending into the world.
Now I love my husband. And he’s my absolute favorite person in the world to spend time with. But here’s what I said to him:
“I wish we had a set of best couple friends.
People for whom we are their first choice to hang out with.
Some friends who want to see us on the regular.”
We have friends.
We have good friends.
We are often included in gatherings.
We have people who call and text us and send surprise cards in the mail.
But we don’t have a set of friends to have dinner with every other Friday. Or have board game tournaments. Or to double-date with.
“I think spending more time with friends would greatly improve my happiness.”
Most of my life is in line with where I want it to be:
My relationships with my family are solid.
Work is going well and my career trajectory is clear.
I have ample enough time to learn and pursue hobbies and passions.
I have resources to devote to improving my health.
But after a couple of years of pandemic living, it’s clear the fun is a little out of balance.
Spending more time with friends would truly be lovely.
So we’re taking applications. At least, we will be once we figure out how to advertise!
Weekly Journal Prompts:
Use these prompts as written or as inspiration to uncover what you need in your life this week.
What areas of your life are satisfying to you?
What brings you joy and fulfillment?
What feels a little sticky?
Is this sticky new? Or has it been hanging around for a while, nudging you to pay attention to it?
What can you do to make the sticky parts of your life a little smoother?
How can you celebrate and appreciate those parts that are going well?
How can you invite more of this good stuff into your life?
One Journaling Idea I Love:
The Wheel of Life
The Wheel of Life is an exercise designed to see how in balance our lives are. Click HERE to get a copy!
You’ll see it’s broken down into 8 sections: Career, Finance, Personal Growth, Health, Friends, Relationships, Recreation, and Spirituality.
For each section, rate your satisfaction in that area by coloring to the corresponding number (for example finances may be an 8, career a 6, relationships a 10, etc.).
Then look to see how balanced your wheel is.
If it was an actual wheel, would it roll?
What do you need more of in your life to bring your life in better balance? How can you invite it in?
What do you need to remove from your life to bring about better balance. How can you draw those boundaries?
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Happy Journaling!